How to Make Peace with False Perceptions

Raise your hand if you’re a people-pleasing person. Now raise your hand if you’ve ever had someone misjudge you. Yep, I’ve been there and it’s not the best feeling. In the words of Pam from The Office, “I hate the idea that someone out there hates me.” I’m sure we’ve all had our Pam moments, even if it isn’t about someone hating us, but more about someone misjudging the intentions or our heart.

That’s always been my biggest problem. Being so much of a people-pleasing person that I never wanted to do, say, or post something in the fear that someone would have a false perception about me and my heart.

As many of you know I moved to Birmingham, Alabama about a month and a half ago to study Christian Ministries with a focus in Pastoral Leadership, and it has hands down been the best decision of my life. But, moving to a new location and starting a new school, it means new people who don’t know much about me. Especially within the church community, it can be so easy to get caught up in wanting to be “perfect,” and to make sure that everyone knows your heart that it is possible that you keep from actually being yourself and in the end, you lose yourself.

Over this past month and a half I’ve struggled with the worst case of writer’s block. Through lots of frustration, I started to question why I was struggling so much to do the thing that I love. It wasn’t until I had coffee with a friend that I realized the answer. I was so scared that people would see my blog, or social media posts, and see them as “shallow,” “arrogant,” or “fake,” rather than see my purpose behind it all. I let the fear of false perceptions keep me from doing the very thing that God has put on my heart to do.

We have to check our hearts when we do things for people, and we have to check our hearts when we don’t do things because of people. Two very dangerous things that can block us from walking in our callings. 

1 Samuel 16:7 “But God told Samuel, “Looks aren’t everything. Don’t be impressed with his looks and stature. I’ve already eliminated him. God judges persons differently than humans do. Men and women look at the face; God looks into the heart.”

There are going to be people out of your circle, and within your circle who are going to try and tear you down, or have false perceptions of the things you do. We have to get to the place where we remember: if God looks at our hearts, knows that our intentions are pure and life giving and He has the final say, then that’s all that matters. Secondly, we must remember that the ones who have taken the time to know us and our hearts will support, love and understand the why,” behind our actions. In actuality, we should thank God for those who misjudge our intentions because it shows us who we need and don’t need in our lives.

The thing is, when God places something to do on your heart , there will be moments of tension, either internally or externally. The enemy will try to attack you internally. People will come against you externally. In fact if you’re doing something and don’t feel the tension at all, it might be time to re-evaluate what you’re doing. There will always be an outside voice that try’s to discourage you. That’s why it’s so important to be rooted internally to His voice. The only voice that truly matters.

So with all of that being said here’s my why behind all of the posts and pictures: God tell’s us to be in the world, but not of it. That means reflecting Him in everything we do. Even if it is as simple as a blog post about lifestyle, or a picture on our social media. That is my goal; to encourage and teach women how to reflect Him within fashion, within beauty, within lifestyle, and how to grow in their faith. What we center our hearts on, we will reflect in everything we do. 

Romans 12 says it best: “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is–his good, pleasing and perfect will.”

I even love how the Message translation puts it: “here’s what I want you to do, God helping you: Take your everyday, ordinary life—your sleeping, eating, going-to-work, and walking-around life—and place it before God as an offering. Embracing what God does for you is the best thing you can do for him. Don’t become so well-adjusted to your culture that you fit into it without even thinking. Instead, fix your attention on God. You’ll be changed from the inside out. Readily recognize what he wants from you, and quickly respond to it. Unlike the culture around you, always dragging you down to its level of immaturity, God brings the best out of you, develops well-formed maturity in you.”

The more I let God change me from the inside out, the more my everyday actions should show His love and light. That’s what my heart’s desire is behind these posts. Not to get a million and one followers, or have a ton of sponsored posts, but, to share my passions with you in a way that reflects God so that you can go and reflect Him in everything you do as well.

So let go of the fear of false perceptions and start walking in a Christ-centered confidence in what He is calling you to do. 

xx, H

1 Comment

  • Reply Julia DeWolf October 10, 2018 at 10:28 am

    I love this so much, definitely something I needed to hear!! You’re an amazing writer!

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