Now that I’m entering into year 19, the last official year as a “teenager,” I thought I should share 19 things I’ve learned within the 19 years I have lived thus far. Before I dive into it, I’d like to thank everyone who made my birthday so very special and showed me so much love. I have a feeling year 19 is going to be sweet.
19 Lessons at 19:
1.Take time for yourself
Over the past year I have become a low-key workaholic, although my friends say it’s a high key thing. I can’t help it…I like being productive and getting stuff done, it’s probably because I’m a three on the Eeneagram. My point is, even if you like being productive and getting stuff done, it’s so important to take time for yourself, or else you’ll burn out. Treat yo self to a bath, a movie night, a face mask, chocolate or even just going to bed early. Remember to take care of yourself!!
2. You’re going to feel loss
There are going to be times in your life when you don’t get the job, don’t get the internship and things just don’t go the way you planned. You’re going to go through and feel loss. But, it is in those moments that something truly magical can happen. It’s in the midst of loss that you can learn, appreciate and get back up and grow. Just because you lose sometimes, doesn’t mean you lose in life. Loss can be a stepping stone to something greater that you’re being prepared for.
3. Embrace failure
I have failed multiple times in life, whether it was on a school exam, what I said to someone, or, how I handled a situation, but, again I can’t stress enough, embrace the failure and grow from it. When we recognize ourselves and how we could’ve done something differently, we grow and mature in a new way.
4. Stop caring what other people think
I learn this lesson, daily. I am naturally a people pleaser and want to be friends with everyone. Reality recently hit me in the face like a truck and reminded me that you’re not always going to please people; there will be others who just don’t like you for any reason, and people who misjudge you. Who cares? I’ve learned that as long as I know who I am, God knows who I am, and the ones I love know who I am, that’s all that truly matters.
5. Don’t take yourself too seriously
Life goes by too fast, don’t be so focused on having to “adult,” or be “perfect,” that you miss out on the beauty and the joy around you. Relax, laugh and enjoy the simple things in life. At the end of the day they matter more.
6. Soak up the little moments
Some of my favorite memories aren’t the big crazy things in life, they’re the little details that are woven into the fabric of my life. It’s the moments of random ice cream runs, late night shenanigans at Walmart the night before prom with friends, the time we had all the windows down driving with our favorite song on. Soak up the little moments, they tend to be the most beautiful and precious ones.
7. Don’t compare yourself to others
Comparison is the thief of joy. You are enough, worthy, have purpose and are beautiful. There is literally no one in this entire world that is exactly like you. Think about that for a second. Is that not crazy?! So, don’t waste your time comparing yourself to someone, who is not anything like you. You have a special purpose and gift that no one else has. Use it and walk confidently in who God made you to be!
8. Start saving money
Maybe I shouldn’t put this down as something I’ve learned, because I’m still learning. This truly is so important. Save money y’all. Life is really dang expensive and saving money is key! Buy a book on how to do it if need be, but learn it!!
9. You and your friends will change – thats okay
This has been the biggest lesson I’ve learned this year. Once you go to college you change a lot, and so do your friends. It’s really hard sometimes to come to grips with this lesson, but once you do, you realize that it’s okay. It’s actually super normal. People are always going to change, it doesn’t mean that your friendships weren’t real. It just means they are changing along with you. Plus, you’re going to make more friends throughout life. I promise it all works out.
10. Everything takes time
Remember when I told y’all I’m not the best at patience. Well I’ve had to learn it a lot this year. If we want to have quality things and a quality life, we have to get used to waiting because good things take time. Remember that saying, “good things come to those who wait”? Well, there’s a lot of truth to it. Trust the process, even if it doesn’t always make sense.
11. Spend less time looking at the screen
Funny that I’m telling you this, as a blogger and social media guru but it’s 100% true and important to learn, especially in this generation. We get so caught up in taking pictures and “capturing” every laugh, sunset and moment, that we don’t take the time to just live in the moment. Although I am a big fan of “capturing” the moment, it’s also important to just be, and enjoy the moment.
12. The older you get, the faster life goes by
When I was younger it felt as if a day was a year. Now it feels as if a year is a day. I’m only 19 and I’m feeling how fast life goes by. Let me tell you, that’s a sobering moment. Cherish each day, and take advantage of the time you have on this earth.
13. Know you’re enough
Like I said above, you are special. You are fearfully and wonderfully made with a beautiful plan and purpose on your life. Not everyone will see it, but that doesn’t change your worth. You are enough and you are a world changer.
14. Remember where you came from
When I graduated high school I was so focused on getting the heck out of Texas that I took advantage of it. Once I moved and was met with reality of life on my own, I recognized just how lucky I was to come from where I came from. It also humbled me…a lot. Don’t forget where you come from, it’s whats made a lot of who you are today.
15. Don’t be afraid of change
Although scary, change can sometimes lead to the greatest and most beautiful adventures. I have experienced more change in the last nine months of my life than I have in, probably, my whole life and although sometimes overwhelming it has brought so much joy, growth and love into my life.
16. Go explore
Don’t let fear keep you from going and exploring. There is a big beautiful world out there filled with so much. Go on a hike. Wake up early to sit on a bridge with some friends and watch the sunrise. Take a spontaneous road trip to a new city. Explore! Start living the stories that you’ll one day tell when you’re old and grey.
17. Everything happens for a reason
Another big lesson I’ve learned this year: sometimes things happen, whether good or bad, and we just can’t see, or understand, how it could possibly have a purpose, but it does. Sometimes we don’t understand those reasons until a week, month or even years later. This year some things that I just truly didn’t understand finally made sense to me, and I would not change one thing about my life because of it. (Even the hard moments.)
18. You don’t have to have it all figured out
I went into college thinking I had to have my whole life figured out, especially since that’s what our world so constantly makes us believe. News flash: you don’t have to always figure it out. And, that’s coming form the girl who likes to have her 10 year plan out in front of her. I thought I had it figured out and then I changed majors, switched schools and moved to a state I thought I would never live in. That’s just how life works sometimes.
19. Never lose sight of your dreams
Life can sometimes make us feel as if our dreams are stupid or impossible, but no matter how old you get and no matter how defeated you feel, don’t lose sight of your dreams and NEVER stop dreaming. Albert Einstein said it best, “The day you stop dreaming, is the day you stop living.”
Here’s to 19 magical years filled with love, loss, pain, joy, tears, laughter and lots of spiritual and emotional growth. Let’s make this year the best one yet.