To The Girl Who Forgot Who She Is

Whether you’re in middle school, high school, college, or are a grown woman. We live in a world constantly criticizing and telling us what we are, or what we should be. Sadly, more often than not, we feed into these lies which make us feel like we’re not good enough. We are constantly having to change ourselves to “fit in” or be “lovable.” There is something truly powerful and beautiful when a woman remembers who she is through Christ rather than this world, and when she does, the game changes drastically. That’s what I want to remind you and encourage you with today. So, if you find yourself forgetting who you are and your worth, this is for you.

But, first let me tell you a little snippet of my own story:

I was always secure in myself growing up, but when I was in the senior year of high school it seemed as if I had lost that security. There is something about your last year of high school that makes you analyze the last X amount of years of your life. From you first crush, to your social life, and your identity. I looked around at all these people I had grown up with and realized that half of them never gave me the chance to be their friend because I didn’t party, drink or mess around physically. I started questioning myself thinking, “What made me so repelling to these “cool kids” for them not want to be my friend?” Maybe I should have gone to the parties, maybe one drink wouldn’t have hurt me. This is high school, I’m supposed to make mistakes, right? My mind started to spiral out of control as I tried to grasp onto what was wrong with me, for these kids to not want to even get to know me. Sadly I listened to these lies, which opened the doors for even more problems to come in my mind. I never did go to the parties or drink. Instead, I thought if I lost enough weight, dressed the right way, and did my makeup the right way – those people would want to be my friends. So, I began to not eat as much as I should. I became self conscious of how many calories I took in. I was eating a salad, rather than that burger I wanted to inhale. I was working out, not to strengthen myself, but to thin myself. And, feeling self conscious if anyone saw me without makeup because I didn’t have clear skin like the other girls,

This destructive cycle made me self conscious, stressed, and grew tired but I tried my best to mask it and act as if I was perfectly okay. It wasn’t till the end of my senior year and during summer when I truly realized just how much harm I was doing, not only my body, but my spirit. I was trying so hard to fit in with people who never gave me the time of day, when the ones who truly cared and loved me saw me for me and loved me and cherished me. Most importantly I put the people of this world and the opinions of this world above the truth of my savior.

This world told me I wasn’t pretty enough, but my God told me I am perfect and loved.

Song Of Solomon 4:7

You are altogether beautiful, my love; there is no flaw in you.

Isiah 41: 10

Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.


The world made me feel broken and unworthy but the Lord picked me up and showed me my worth.

 Psalm 147: 3

He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.

Matthew 10: 31

Fear not, therefore; you are of more value than many sparrows.

 Genesis 1: 27

So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.

Deuteronomy 4:29

But from there you will seek the Lord your God and you will find him, if you search after him with all your heart and with all your soul.

I was trying to find Heavenly acceptance on Earthly territory and it only lead me to more harm, and forgetting who I was. I am not what this world calls me, I am what my God calls me. He calls me loved, worthy, called, beautiful, wonderfully made, and more precious than rubies.

He also showed me that I do not need man’s acceptance, because I am accepted by my heavenly and eternal father. And, that the ones who are worth my time are the ones who have always loved me no matter what my size, complexion or social status.

So, if you find yourself struggling with this or any form of your identity, remember that you are not the size on your clothes, you are not the blemishes on your skin, you are not your social status, you are not the brand you wear, you are not the number of followers you have on Instagram. You are a daughter of the King of Kings. You have a beautiful and specifically made plan over your life. You’are so loved that the Lord gave His only son to die for you so you could live in His freedom and grace, and you are SO astonishing.

Remember and speak these things over your life, because I know it can get hard to remember these truths when you are constantly surrounded by a world of artificial “beauty.” So to kick off this new year I want to challenge you to join me in being beautifully ourselves, by taking a moment from the makeup, taking a break from the hair curlers and straighteners and just being US! Let me see your gorgeous pictures on your  insta or stories with the hashtag #beautifullymyself and then tag three friends in the challenge. Let’s build each other up, and be strong, courageous and beautiful women of God together.

I’ll be seeing you,

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